How to End Things with a Loved One
Face it, not all relationships are meant to last forever. People change, feelings fade, and hearts drift apart. Breakups are never easy. They not only bring forth a river of tears but it can also give rise to ill feelings. Here are some things to remember when deciding to go separate ways with a loved one:
- Never breakup over the phone, through text, email, or IM. It may be easier to cut your ties through electronic means but it’s just plain disrespectful. If you really must part ways, do it in person and in private.
- Don’t play the blame game. You can’t hold the other person liable for the demise of your relationship. More often than not, both parties have contributed to the falling out so never point fingers.
- Do it quickly. Breaking up is like removing a bandage from a wound. The easiest way to do it is to just rip it off. Get things done and over with. Don’t mince words. Say what you mean and mean what you say.
- Don’t say you’ll stay friends if you don’t intend to be friends. People have so much to deal with post-break up which means promising friendship right off the bat is irresponsible. It can take a lot of time before each person’s wounds are finally healed so much so that they are able to be civil towards each other.
- Don’t publicize your breakup. Telling the whole world about your failed relationship is a grenade ready to explode at any given moment. Not only is it hurtful for the other person but it also means having to deal with nasty rumors and gossip.